Mummies night out is a must

Being a mom is hard work. Really hard work , I love my children, but that doesn’t make caring for them 24/7 any easier. As moms our help and support is in constant demand … but you can’t constantly give when your own cup is running dry.

unless your cup is filled with delicious Coffee !!! it will never run dry

I’ve learned from experience that there’s always another meal to get on the table, a home school project to help with, or laundry to cycle. At a certain point I decided to stop waiting for someone to notice I needed a break and just start taking one. I’m happy to report that everyone is better off since I started taking a regular mom’s night out.

And, no, I don’t mean a trip to the grocery store!

Friendship and Mentoring

For that reason women crave time together. As studies have shown that social time is more than fun for women — it’s a coping mechanism. Women are much more social than men in the way they cope with stress.

We like to meet in LondondairyCafe . as we all know its a great venue where all moms can gather to talk and/or share advises as they move through the stages of motherhood. Like any job, there is a learning curve and being able to learn from someone else makes it easier.

Throughout civilizations all over the globe, women have passed on knowledge and wisdom from one generation to another. This is the real concept behind the phrase, “it takes a village.” And sad to say, our village seems to be dwindling in modern society.

Today many women start families far away from their own “tribe” — mother, sisters, and friends. Technology does something to bridge the gap but in many ways the modern mom must make her own tribe.

 Some research suggests that we can use light hearted conversation to establish and maintain our connection within a tribe, as well as for mere information transfer.

So, by providing a space for regular, but unplanned, interaction with members of the community, we found that a place like London dairy can play a role in creating social networks, and therefore encouraging Mummies to meet and have some good times.

Personal Space

Sometimes “Moms’ Night Out” (plural) needs to be “Mom’s Night Out” (singular). Personal space hardly exists with a house full of kids, especially nursing and diaper-wearing ones. If the only personal space you get is in the bathroom, it’s time to start a new tradition.

One of my favorite books on mom life suggests setting aside a regular day once or twice a month (or even weekly) for Mom’s Day Out. This is a day to do whatever you need or want to do. Put it on the schedule just like you would a doctor’s appointment, and ask your spouse or a friend to keep you accountable!

How to Start a Girls’ Night (& Keep It Going)

If you don’t already have a circle of friends, you’re not alone. It took many years for me to find the right friendships and even now I can’t exactly say I’ve found “my tribe.” Life with little kids makes it hard, but remember … they won’t be little forever. It can be done!

Here are some quick tips to set the wheels in motion for your own ladies’ night out:

• Keep it simple. Make it as easy as possible for everyone to join in. Nothing has to be extravagant or elaborate.

• Set a regular schedule. The second Tuesday at 8 PM or every Sunday at 3 PM Keeping a regular schedule makes planning much easier.

• Find a convenient meet-up location (preferably not another mom’s home, but if you all have babies and that is what works, go for it).

• Consider inviting moms from diverse backgrounds and even age groups (back to that mentor bit!).

The catch to staying in: you may have to let go of perfection and invite someone into your real-life life/house/mess. Chances are you’ll be glad you did.

Your turn! Do you have a regularly scheduled Moms’ Night Out? Ready to start one? Share your best ideas with us below!